Shiverwar 2020-05-16 21:46:04

There isn't a whole heck of a lot I can say to you that I have not already said, but I will say this: I hope the person who allegedly did do all the grooming and manipulation and whatnot is brought to justice, and some form of finality can be reached. Your question "what do we do in cases like these" is, well, almost unanswerable to those who have either not experienced said travesties or not known anyone who has. The only thing that can be done right now is what you stated: talk about the art as well as the artist behind it. Now, I am one of those people willing to separate the art from the artist if I like the art itself, but do not like the artist, but I also agree that there are cases where the artist's actions are so reprehensible that it's nigh impossible to do that within moral reasoning. Just know that you have people you can talk to whenever and if ever you feel you need to. Whatever you don't wish to relay does not have to be relayed, and whatever you do wish to relay is up to you to do so. Stay strong, my friend.

Jacob 2020-05-17 04:51:02

I'm sorry to hear this. Discovering that a friend has been harmful to someone, especially to another friend, is its own brand of heartbreak.

I agree with the maxim of preserving the art, in a general sense. Whether it be their own or part of a collaboration, I do not believe in forced removal of expression, even if the creator's legacy has been altered by their actions.

Your own publications, however, are personal. It is, instead, your creation that has been tainted by someone else's actions. If you do not wish to leave them up, then they should no longer be here. I support that decision.

And I wish you well, through everything. Feel free to reach out.

Whirlguy 2020-05-17 05:41:23

I too have projects and posts on here that I would rather pretend didn't exist but they're a part of my history now. The thought of banning every single movie that Harvey Weinstein was involved with, or Michael Jackson's songs for that matter is hard to bear. I'd like to look beyond that. Our creations are like children and I think it would be a shame to persecute content simply for having reprehensible parents. You might own rights to a project, but in a sense it's not truly yours anymore. It's not that your project exists for your enjoyment alone because it extends beyond that and spreads joy to others as well. Give it some thought though, it's not an easy decision.

Troisnyx 2020-05-17 06:15:54

@Whirlguy Oh, and I might add: the three fragments were gifts to a close friend of mine.

Said close friend would eventually discover this dude's awful behaviour and out of respect for her at least, I can't conceivably have the three fragments of music up in their current state.

mutty99 2020-05-18 08:21:17

I can't help but hate this "grooming" person; the worse fact is that it was a friend of yours, and therefore you probably thought he was a good guy beforehand. "What to do in cases like these?" I don't know, there isn't one universal answer; personally, I would cut every contact with said person, and don't stop thinking about him/her until I'm sure justice is brought on him/her. Either way, the emotional pain is massive :(

SirLoineStake 2020-05-19 05:40:51

Really sorry to hear about this - I completely get why you would do this.

Hope you are staying safe :)

ADR3-N 2020-06-10 18:13:07

Ah geez, I'm so sorry to hear about this... as someone who's lived through it myself, I can imagine the twist in your stomach is, well, best left unsaid. I hope you're doing well, and I'm here for you any time. If you need someone to talk to, shoot me a PM, and we'll find a way.